英译汉: 为人谦恭为本,护航终身成功 —— 于2018年4月16日

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作者:Tiffany Sonnier, MBA(美) / 原译:东田

       今天,我迎来了一位稀客,一位在美国政界十分有影响力的人物 —— 一位失去其地位后的奋斗者。他拼搏着、且伤痛着,只因他在位期间,他的电话,没有一分钟不响个不停。找他的人来自各行各业,想方设法地总欲要么在他办公室、要么在他家中见到他。那就甭提另外还众多的宴请了。

       现在,他已经不再高高在上了,随之,其电话也以小时计地连个打进的电话呼都没有了。而且,人们也在回避他的电话,并且,即便有些电话呼入,也都不过是来自他的孩子或家人的电话交代些什么。

       这就是人生。当你拥有实力或权势地位的时候,你有必要留意、别误以为许多人之所以电话呼你,都是你的支持者、心腹或拥趸。其实,当人们电话找你时,他们只不过是在电洽该地位罢了,而非该当事人。当你是董事执行官时,他们所电话来找的,是那个地位,而非你本人。当你从那一地位的离开那一分钟开始,所曾有过的来电寻找和宴请、或会面等,也就都随之消失。

       这一切同样适用于人生的其它方面。有些人所以会电话找你,只不过是由于你已经已经成就你的今天、或你已成就了能给予东西。并非他们现在欲乎你本人了。他们所在乎的只不过是:你所拥有的什么、以及他们所能从你那儿得到的什么。当你终止了拥有那一切、或他们亦可从别处获取同样东西的那一分钟起,所有的电话以及宴请都会此停止。

       我亲爱的朋友们,人生尽量谦虚、而勿让“好事”一叶障目。

       生活中,谁都热衷于某一成品。却没人兴趣仍陷在沟渠里的你。我之所以体会,那是因为曾经历。当我还在苦斗求索时,极少人关注过我。没人兴趣人之苦斗。谁都热衷于获奖者。每个人都上赶着欲以己附体于获胜者。他们总欲有某种把自己挂钩于获胜者的说法。他们总会宣称曾对那获胜者之成功中发挥过作用。他们还会宣称,他们曾如何地从一开始就总相信他们(指获胜者)。

       那正是为何常言道:你越是上升,你就越得自行低调。你越成功或越发达,你就越得人生简化。若你越是把时间与人们相处,则,人们就无论如何越是站在你一边。

       绝大多数情况下,人一旦被提拔,他们便越来越多地把时间耗在生意伙伴上,并且也就相对减少了与家庭或孩子们相处的时间。于是,若他们突然失去了该地位,猜猜看就会发生什么……生意伙伴或朋友都逃之夭夭。然后,谁会是不离不弃者?是家庭和孩子。他们总会在那儿。

       当一个女人还美丽时,所有的男人都爱慕她。她便有选择地可拒绝某些,而接受某些。然,她的美丽会褪色。她便开始质疑,为何不再有男人对其兴趣。因为,没人欲求褪色的产品。谁都追求时尚的东西。这就是人生。今天事发于你,数月之后,将换做别人。

       你成功时,谁都忘不了你。我从未见过任何一位富人没有亲戚。我也从未见过任何一位富人会没有“朋友”。然而,对此之非认可,即也实为大多富人所心知肚明,之所以他们大多之能凑在一起者,他们也只不过是因富而为之罢了。钞票过后之时分,乃“朋友”闪电之离人。

       别把赞美和礼品太当回事儿,因为,它们可能就是圈套障目着你的命运。尤其是有人阿谀奉承的时候。

       我不会让赞美和夸奖所困惑。然而,我却有过这样的过往。那位今天美言你的人,可能就是明天向你问罪的同一人。

       我宁择志同道合的纯粹者,而非阿谀奉承的人。

       那也兴许是我无能为影响人物之行销所在。我无法促销某些我本不在乎或认可的东西。我的价值观只接轨我所推销的事物。

       因此,下次当你处于某个成功的地位的时候,或者说是你正“炙手可热”的时候,可别一时忘乎所以,而是脚踏实地。就埋头苦干吧,为人谦虚吧,支撑亲友们吧,善解人意、善解所需、且帮助他们吧。一旦你曾挺身而出解救人燃眉之急,他人也将会挺身驰援于你所需之时。并且,你将一生处于成功。

 

        英语原版如下:

        No one is interested in you when you are in the trenches, Everybody wants the medal winner. They will look for a way to attach themselves to the…

  • Published on April 16, 2018

        Tiffany Sonnier, MBA, Executive Director. Advisor, Motivational Speaker for a global NGO focused on civil, human rights and humanitarian aid

 

         Today I welcomed a rare visitor, a person of great influence in United States of America politics who is struggling after losing his position. He is struggling and deeply hurt that during his leadership, his phone could not go a minute without buzzing. He had people from all walks of life trying to meet him either at his office or at his home, not to mention the many dinner invitations as well.

         Now that he is no longer at the top, his phone goes hours without a call. People avoid his calls and even when calls come in, it is probably one of his children or family members asking for something.

      That is life. When you hold a position of power or authority, you need to be careful not to mistake the many people calling you for your supporters, confidants or fans. When people call you, they are calling the position, they are not calling the person. When you are the CEO, they are calling that position, not you the person. The minute you leave the position, the phone calls and dinner invitations or meetings will go away.

         The same applies for other parts of life. Some people will only call you because of what you have become or what you can offer. It is not that they now care about you. They care about what you have and what they can get from you. The moment you cease having it or the moment they can get it from elsewhere, the calls and dinners will stop.

         My dear friends, try to be humble in life and not be blinded by “sweet things”.Everyone loves a finished product in life. No one is interested in you when you are in the trenches. I know because I experienced it. Few people cared when I was struggling to find my way. No one is interested in the one struggling. Everybody wants the medal winner. Everyone will look for a way to attach themselves to the winner. They will all have a story that connects them to the winner. They will all claim to have played a part in the winner’s success. They will claim how they always believed in them from the start.

          That is why it is often said that the more you go up, the more you should humble yourself. The more success or money you get, the more you should simplify your life. The more you should spend time with the people who will be by your side no matter what.

          Too often, when people are promoted they spend more and more time with business partners, and less time with their family or kids. Then if they abruptly lose that position, guess what happens… business partners or friends flee. But who refuses to flee? The family and children. They will always be there.

          When a woman is beautiful, every man loves her. She has the option to reject some, and accept some. Then, her beauty fades. She starts to wonder why no man is interested. Nobody wants the faded product. Everybody jumps onto the new trending thing. That is life. Today it’s you, months later it is another one. 

           Everyone will remember you when you succeed. I have never seen a rich man without relatives. I have never seen a rich man without “friends”. But here is the disclaimer, and most rich men actually know it, most of those who hang around are only doing so because they are rich. The minute the money goes, the “friends” will run off with lightning speed.

           Don’t be overtaken by praises and gifts because they can be traps blinding you from your destiny. Especially when given for flattery. 

           I don’t get caught up by praises or compliments. But I used to. The same people praising you today will be the same people accusing you tomorrow.

           I prefer genuine people with the same goals, not flattery.

           That’s why I probably can’t do influencer marketing. I can’t promote something I don’t care about or believe in. My values have to align with whatever I am promoting.

           So next time you are in a position of success, or you are the “it thing”, don’t get caught up in the moment, stay grounded. Just work hard, be humble, be supportive of your family and friends, understand people, their needs and help them. Once you’ve gone out of your way to solving somebody’s problem, they’ll go out of their way to help in your times of need. And you will stay successful all your life.

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